Updating My 90-Day Habits: Why My Life Changed Course
Earlier this year, I created a detailed plan for my 90-day habits and goals. I had every intention of turning my life around with a structured daily schedule—from waking up early for Bible study to going to bed on time with a full day of meaningful activities in between.
And at first, it was going great.
My mornings were peaceful and productive. I was walking the dogs, getting dressed for the day, exploring new coffee shops, and spending my evenings practicing the keyboard, reading, and winding down naturally.
It felt like everything was on track.
But just a couple of weeks in, everything changed.
A Promotion That Changed Everything
I was offered a promotion at work. It came with a slight raise, a new title, and more responsibility. I hesitated, but one of my goals for the year was to increase our income—so I accepted.
Looking back, it was one of the worst decisions I’ve made in a long time.
The company I worked for had always been a little dysfunctional, but this new role exposed just how toxic the environment really was. My manageable 8-hour workdays turned into 12, 14, even 16-hour days—plus weekends. No overtime. No appreciation. Just mounting pressure and unrealistic expectations.
All of the habits and goals I had worked so hard to build began to unravel.
There was no more Bible study.
No more cooking or walking the dogs.
I stopped playing the keyboard.
I wasn’t reading or enjoying my evenings anymore.
I was either working or recovering from work. That’s it.
The pursuit of money had completely derailed the peace and purpose I was chasing.
The Breaking Point
By mid-March, I was exhausted—physically, mentally, and spiritually. I wasn’t burned out because I couldn’t handle the work… I was burned out because no one should have to handle that kind of work.
I tried offering solutions to my employer:
- Pay me fairly for the work expected.
- Let me step down into my old role.
- Explore a more sustainable position within the company.
Their answer?
No.
No options. No flexibility. No willingness to compromise.
Just a simple “You can keep doing what you’re doing—or you can quit.”
So I did.
Surrendering to a New Season
On April 1st (and no, it wasn’t an April Fool’s joke), I walked away from the job. My husband and I had many conversations and a lot of prayer leading up to that decision. We realized it was time for me to fully step into homemaking and trust him to provide financially.
God didn’t design me to sit at a desk 16 hours a day in a toxic environment while my marriage, my home, my health, and my peace suffered.
That’s not what I was created for.
Yes, I had good intentions.
Yes, I was chasing goals that seemed worthy.
But when the pursuit of income becomes more important than obedience, peace, or health—it’s time to reevaluate.
What I’ve Learned So Far
Some of my original goals still matter to me. But now I’m approaching them with a new heart posture.
I’m learning to slow down.
To rest.
To trust in God’s provision through my husband.
To serve my home joyfully and without pressure.
To honor my body, my time, and the calling God has placed on me in this season.
This isn’t about failure.
This is about faith.
It’s about choosing peace over performance.
Presence over productivity.
A Note to You, If You’re in the Same Boat
If you’re in a season where the grind has taken over your life… please hear this:
You are allowed to pivot.
You are allowed to change direction.
You are allowed to rest.
Money matters—but it is not worth the cost of your peace, your health, or your calling. We were never meant to do this in our own strength.
Thank you for being here, and thank you for following along as I continue to document this new season—one peaceful, intentional step at a time.
📖 “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.”
— Colossians 3:23